We have all had the problem of clingy exes. The ones that would call just to tell us they were "doing great!" and wanted to let us know how wonderful their life was without us. This is important to many folks as part of a breaking up process. It should be a brief period of time. Sometimes when the person may not be so stable it can take a very long time for that person to get out of that cycle.
I have seen some guys do more with their lives to prove something to an ex than they ever would have on their own. These guys on a mission want to cure cancer, become a ceo, and donate their time to various charities all by the end of the week. I am sure there even have been a US President here and there too. Those guys can ride that wave of rejection high and wide. The other side is far less productive.
The whiny calls. The random showing up at places they shouldn't be. The friend/unfriend ing on facebook etc. etc.. Those are the ones that drag on forever and can never seem to take a hint. Those should not be invited to any wedding EVER!!! Even if it will break their heart to be uninvited. It's better to have that unstable person at home sulking, rather than at your wedding.... watching you get married... to someone else .... while their brain get soaked in alcohol and let's those emotions run wild.
PLEASE DO NOT INVITE CLINGY EXES TO YOUR WEDDING!!!!!!
It's all about you two as a couple. Do not let other's hog your spotlight. Why am I mentioning this? I read a blog by Andrew Cohen writing about his ex getting married. This wedding day "gift" to his ex girlfriend reads like a puffed up version of post break up notes I had seen in Junior High. He goes on and on about how great this woman was to him and how sad he was to lose her, but now it's good!
Andrew Cohen absolves her of any guilt she might have " worldly absolution from any guilt or sadness she felt between the time she said no to me and the time she said yes to him" REALLY?
What a nice guy. He says it's all good because she's getting married.
I feel so sorry for this girl. He even dragged his deceased father into this.
Until almost literally his dying day, my dad would ask me about her. Near the end, almost exactly two years ago, I did not have the heart to tell him that we had broken up. It gives me peace figuring that he died thinking she'd be in my life when he was gone
This is considered his gift!! If any of you Brides/grooms to be are on the fence about inviting an ex who didn't take your breakup well....DON'T... if you need further proof
Here read the Andrew Cohen blog post to his ex on her wedding day.
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